Affair Recovery

You thought you had an understanding with your partner or spouse that included not having a romantic or sexual relationship with anyone outside your relationship or marriage.

Now — You either suspect or know for a fact he/she is cheating or has cheated.
Or — You are cheating or were cheating on him/her.

Nothing stirs feelings up more than dealing with this issue.  People frequently report their feelings being out of control and often report feeling crazy at times.  This is true for both the one cheated on and the one doing the cheating.

The definition of a crisis: “the turning point for better or worse; a sudden attack of pain, distress or disordered function; an emotionally significant event or radical change of status in a person’s life; the decisive moment, an unstable or crucial time or state of affair in which a decisive change is impending; a situation that has reached a critical phase.” (Webster's Dictionary)

Cheating, or being cheated on, creates a major crisis in your life.  When it does, one word takes center stage — the word that says it all.

Betrayal

Few feelings can compare.  Even death is often easier to deal with.

Betraying someone who trusted you, even in the most callous of people, often produces more guilt than almost any misdeed.  Being betrayed wounds at the deepest level.

It seems as if the relationship can never be healed. How could you ever feel trusted again, or how could you ever trust again?

At Foundations Counseling, we will help you sort through the feelings that come from betrayal and then help you chart a path to recovery, whether you chose to end the relationship, or decide to continue the relationship.  If you decide to stay, we will help you make the relationship the best it can be using the research and methods of Dr. John Gottman, Ph.D.  During this process, you will not only learn how to have a happy, stable relationship, but also how to affair-proof your relationship to avoid ever being in this “crisis” again.  Dr. Gottman has been researching marriage for over 30 years.  What you will learn comes from the most reliable research ever done in the area of marriage.

If you and/or your partner are currently struggling with overcoming the effects of an affair on your relationship, we are here to help.  Please contact us today for a free consultation and ask to speak with Kimberley Harris, Ray Robinson, Jennifer Reed, or Chris Berger.