Increasing Intimacy

There are two types of intimacy problems.  There can be a general intimacy problem, which encompasses intimacy in all situations, and with all types of people.  There can also be a specific intimacy problem, which would be classified as an intimacy issue with one person.

In order to enjoy all facets of a relationship - be they sexual, emotional, mental, or just physical - you must be able to be intimate with that person.  This means trusting your partner to take care of you and to never hurt you intentionally.  It also means being comfortable sharing personal information.

Intimacy is not just a sexual issue, although many times, intimacy problems are identified only in the bedroom.  Intimacy issues with sex are often the most noticeable because we place a high priority on sex.  If we are unable to express ourselves sexually in a relationship, then we lose a quality that has been deemed quite important, which might result in the deterioration of the relationship.

If you know that you have intimacy problems, here are a few things you can do to help relieve your fears:

Evaluate Your Relationship

There has to be a reason why you have intimacy problems, and you must first decide whether you have general or specific intimacy issues.  Do your problems reside with your current partner, or have you felt the same way in every relationship?

Talk with Your Partner

If you can’t discuss intimacy problems with your partner, your relationship is likely to suffer.  A healthy, committed relationship must be built on trust in the other person, so try to explain your feelings to him or her.  Maybe your partner can offer some insight, or maybe you’ll feel better just having voiced your concerns.

See a Counselor

Sometimes you need an outsider’s perspective on intimacy.  Counseling may help you gain clarity.  It may also provide the assistance you and your partner need in order to talk about issues you haven't been able to address in the past.

If you are struggling with emotional and/or sexual intimacy in your relationship, we are here to help.  Please contact us today for a free consultation and ask to speak with Kimberley Harris, Ray Robinson, Jennifer Reed, or Chris Berger.