Sex and Porn Addiction Therapy

Do you desire to be set free from porn and sex addiction?

Have you tried to stop on your own, but failed?

Are you overwhelmed with shame, guilt, or embarrassment?

Sex addiction is a destructive and difficult problem.  It ruins relationships, loses jobs, causes arrests, and destroys self-esteem and physical health.  Millions of people are affected by this addiction. It is not primarily a moral problem.  It is a problem of out of control feelings and behaviors. However, where there is a desire to recover, there is hope.

Sexual addicts make sex a priority more important than family, friends, and work.  Sex becomes the overriding organizing principle of addict's lives.  They are willing to sacrifice what they cherish most in order to preserve and continue their unhealthy behavior.

For some, the addictive behavior does not progress beyond compulsive masturbation or an extensive use of pornography, phone, or computer sex services.  For others, their addiction can involve illegal activities such as exhibitionism, voyeurism, obscene phone calls, child molestation, or rape.

Addictive sexual behaviors may include:

• Compulsive masturbation
• Multiple affairs
• Sexual fantasies
• Obsessive use of pornography
• Unsafe and risky sex
• Voyeurism or exhibitionism
• Multiple or anonymous partners
• Phone or internet sex
• Sexual massage, escorts, prostitutes
• Seeking Prostitutes

Compulsive sexual thoughts and/or behaviors can lead to increasingly serious consequences in both the individuals’ internal and external world.  The consequences may include severe depression, low self-esteem, shame, self-hatred, hopelessness, despair, intense anxiety, loneliness, moral conflict, contradictions between ethical values and behaviors, fear of abandonment, spiritual bankruptcy, distorted thinking, remorse, and self deceit.

70 to 75% of sex addicts have thought about suicide.  Many suffer from broken relationships and more than 40% experience severe marital and other relationship problems.  Sexual activities outside the primary relationship result in loss of self-esteem to both partners as well as severe stress to the relationship.

Treatment includes individual work that helps you focus on stopping the painful and troublesome behaviors.  Our program includes a full history of your addiction and family of origin issues.  This includes: how all of these behaviors started, what brings these behaviors on, issues in your life that may currently be increasing stress and triggering your sexual acting out, past trauma, and current health concerns.

You and your sex addiction counselor will work together to clearly define a relapse prevention plan, which leads many to experience sexual abstinence for the first time in their lives.  By the end of 30 days on this plan, people often report a sense of well being, relief from lying and leading double lives, a restored sense of dignity, and hope for a future free of sexually compulsive behaviors.

If married, nearly all wives of sex addicts are traumatized by the lies, deceptions, and betrayal, and they need treatment too.  The wife's wounding has to be addressed as well as have both parties participate in marital therapy.

Sadly, there is a stigma around sexual addiction that makes it difficult for some people to reach out for help.  That is why we put so much focus on creating a safe, confidential and judgment-free environment where people can heal from their addiction.
 

If you or your spouse struggles with any of the above issues, please contact us today for a free consultation and ask to speak with Kimberley Harris, Ray Robinson, Jennifer Reed, or Chris Berger.