5 New Year's Resolutions for Your Best Year Ever

5 Worthwhile New Year's Resolutions for a Better Life


According to research, about 80 percent of all New Year's Resolutions fail within the first month. Many times, it's because people are too focused on unrealistic goals or shallow achievements that won't really improve their lives. Here are five achievable New Year's resolutions that will guarantee your best year yet.


Resolve to love yourself as you are. You may think you will be happier if you're ten pound lighter or a few dollars richer. Unfortunately, reality is likely to disappoint you. After the initial rush of happiness, you're apt to feel underwhelmed, as you settle back into your everyday outlook. While it's good to have goals, if you obsess over them, you will miss out on all the happiness you could be experiencing right now. It's ok to set goals for the year. Just make sure you aren’t using achievements to mask lingering emotional issues on the inside.


Focus on the things that matter. According to surveys, the most popular New Year's resolutions center on exercising more, losing weight, eating healthier and picking up a new hobby. While these things can contribute to our overall well-being, they don't typically get to the root of what is really bothering us. If you harbor feelings of anxiety, inadequacy, self-doubt or pain related to past trauma, resolve to address these issues head on by meeting with a qualified therapist who can help you find peace with the past and adopt healthier attitudes and behaviors.


Embrace gratitude. A mountain of research has shown that we enjoy enhanced happiness and physical well-being when we actively practice gratitude. Studies have demonstrated that gratitude has the power to enhance our psychological outlook on life, improve our physical health, boost self-esteem, improve sleep quality and make our relationships closer. So, how can you practice gratitude? Start by keeping a gratitude journal. Before you go to sleep at night, jot down five things that occurred during the day that made you feel grateful. Don't worry if you tend to write the same things down every day. This simply means these things are important enough to bring you joy on a continuing basis.


Resolve to live in the now. If you consistently look toward a future in which you are wealthier, thinner or more successful, you will miss the opportunity to enjoy the present moment. Self-improvement is great, and it's healthy to have goals. That said, if that is all you can think about, you will lose out on all the wonderful moments life can offer you right now. Work hard to cultivate mindfulness by focusing on the things you see, hear, taste, smell and touch. Try to enjoy the journey instead of fixating on the destination, or you will find that life is passing you by.


Resolve to let go of defensiveness. Defensiveness is a useful talent: It lets us blame our kids or spouse for a messy home. It enables us to blame a meddling coworker or unlikeable boss for an unpleasant work environment. Unfortunately, it also cultivates one-sided relationships, while also preventing us from becoming better people. This year, take a step back and honestly assess whether you are too quick to take a defensive approach to your life and the people in it. By making small changes to the way you respond to situations, you can make great strides toward becoming the person you want to be.

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